I don’t have a biological clock. I’ve never wondered what my kids’ names would be. I recently thought how nice it would be if I didn’t have dogs because I could use a life with less responsibility.
Why the declarations? Because my lack of wanting to procreate means that I would never feel the need to settle down with a guy because it was “time”. So since I can’t understand why anyone would do that, I have no right to talk about it here, huh?
If you said yes, then you must be new.
Some of you may know a single chick who is dating a guy she has lukewarm feelings for. She’s dating Mr. You’ll Do instead of Mr. Right, and all they do is fight and bicker over stupid shit. The combination of fighting about the mundane plus not being terribly interested in the guy equals someone you shouldn’t marry. But she would if he asked! Why? Because she wants a family.
Judge Judy is my hero. Actually, she’s in a 4-way tie with Adam Carolla, Dr. Drew, and Dave Ramsey. She wrote a great book about how chicks shouldn’t be stupid. It’s called “Beauty Fades, Dumb is Forever”, and I so highly recommend it. I once heard her speak of what she calls a woman’s “need to nest”. She was telling some douchebag in her courtroom that sometimes the need to nest is so strong in a woman that she doesn’t really care who she chooses to build that nest with. How terribly sad.
If you fight a lot before you’re married, you’ll fight a lot when you’re married. Fact. The Internet told me so. So if you can’t make it work during the honeymoon phase, so help me, don’t marry the fool. A friend once told me “Anyone should be able to make a relationship work for at least two years based on having sex and going to the movies.” Though that is quite simplified, he makes a point: if you can’t do the fun part of the relationship without a fight, then you can’t do the financial planning, child raising, life building part either. So for the love of all things holy, don’t breed with someone you can’t get along with.
And when it comes to breeding, I’d assume the number one priority on this quest is finding the perfect guy to breed with. I mean, isn’t that step one? I’m asking. I just assume that someone is after the whole “family” package and not just the baby portion. And that I just don’t get. Because they don’t stay babies forever.
Besides the chick who settles for baby making purposes, we also have the “time waster”. She’s the chick who says “I can’t break up with him now! I’ve wasted two years with him!” Wasted? What are you talking about? Did that two year relationship prevent you from curing cancer or fighting crime? Doubtful. Just look at it this way: It took you two years to realize he was a colossal dbag. So quit throwing money into that depreciating asset. You won’t recoup the investment, so just cut and run.
I leave you with this: If you fight with your boyfriend more than once a week, don’t make him your husband, and I won’t call you stupid.